Once you have cremation services in Westbury, NY for a loved one, and then you honor their memory with a memorial service, writing thank you cards or notes to those who helped you out can be a very nice thing to do. It helps people to know that you appreciate their caring support during a hard time. While it’s not always easy to get through the cards, it’s important for people to know how much you appreciated their gestures.
The first thing you should do is make a list of everyone who deserves a note from you. You don’t have to send a card to everyone who attended the service, but rather those that went an even further distance for you. For example, if someone brought you dinner, they deserve a note. If a friend offered to watch your kids over the weekend so you could dig into your plans and just grieve, that was going the extra mile for you. Anyone who sent flowers or a charitable gift should also get a thank you. Send notes to those who were actively involved in the service, or did something extra for you on the side.
Once you have a list, perhaps you can gather the addresses and prepare the cards. Then, you can start the writing process. It can feel overwhelming once you realize how many cards you have to write. But if you take on just a few each day, you can get the job done in a matter of a few weeks. You can also break the job up among siblings or others who might have received gifts personally when the person passed around.
Try to customize each note and mention what the person sent to you or did for you. Tell them you enjoyed the meal or that you placed the cookies in the freezer to get out the next time the family gathers. Let them know it meant a lot to you that they did a reading at the memorial service or sang a song. Making it personal will let them know you really did appreciate their gesture and aren’t just making it generic.
That’s another reason why it’s good to spread out writing the notes. If you write too many at once, they might start to sound the same and not feel as genuine or, more importantly, come across as genuine to the recipient.
If you are struggling with who should get a thank you card after the memorial and cremation services in Westbury, NY, the professionals at Roslyn Heights Funeral Home are still here to help. We help set up the cremation as well as the memorial service, but we don’t go anywhere after those are complete. We are still here to support you and help you get your questions answered. We also have grief resources, like connections to grief support groups, counselors, and other such things in case you find that you need the extra help once the services are behind you.