You Missed The Funeral…Now What?
When your friend let you know that their loved one passed on and invited you to the services at the funeral home in Manhasset, NY, you likely wanted to be there to support them, even if you didn’t know their loved one. Or, perhaps you read about the death in the obituaries, and the community was invited to the service. Either way, if you missed the service for any reason, you might want to do something to make it up to your friend, even in a small way. Here are some things you can do.
Send A Sympathy Card
It’s always nice to send a card to your friend, whether you can attend their loved one’s services or not. In that card, let them know that you are sorry for their loss and that you are sorry you couldn’t make the services. You don’t have to go into detail about why or even provide a reason at all. Chances are, nothing you use as an excuse is going to sound more important to your friend than their loved one’s services. Just apologize for missing it and tell them you were thinking of them during that time.
Send Flowers
Flowers are a nice way to add to any card you send and convey messages of sympathy and well wishes. Different flowers mean different things and there are colors within flower types that denote certain things as well. Talk to the florist about the message you want to send and see what flowers are suitable. Or, you can choose based on what you know your friend appreciates and go from there.
Send A Monetary Gift
Some people put money in their sympathy cards and that’s a very nice thing to do, too. You can tell your friend that you’re sorry for their loss and that you wanted to help honor their loved ones in some small way. They can then use that money for a charity donation to honor them, a permanent memorial, or other things.
Spend Time With Them Later
Just because you couldn’t make the funeral service doesn’t mean you can’t support your friend through their grief at another time. Send the card and/or other items and then call your friend in a couple of weeks and invite them out for coffee. Or, stop by their home with a casserole and some kind words. Let them know you are there for them for the duration of their grief, even if you couldn’t make the service. They might appreciate your presence more in their later grieving than at the funeral, anyway.
It can be hard to be everywhere you want to be at all times. You can’t always fit it all in. If you missed services for a friend’s relative at funeral homes in Manhasset, NY, there are plenty of things you can do to show your sympathy and support. IF you want more ideas, or advice on what to say, reach out to the professionals at Roslyn Heights Funeral Home for help.
